When Moving on is Holding You Back

Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.

- John F Kennedy

Sometimes we stare so long at the door that is closing that we see too late the one that is open.

- Alexander Graham Bell

My mama always said you've got to put the past behind you before you can move on.

-Forrest Gump

Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time.

We are the ones we've been waiting for.

We are the change that we seek.

- Barak Obama

Some people live most of their lives with very little tragedy encompassing on their every day life,

and I am so thankful for the pure and beautiful naivety that those very people possess. 

I truly mean that! However, some of us face many bumps on our path and 

sometimes those bumps are enough to knock us down every once in awhile.

I do want to note a disclaimer that I am not trying to belittle anyone's problems in this post,

and I know that there is an infinite amount of suffering in this world that we live.

With saying that, I have had a great deal of those moments that knock you down,

and what I have come to realize is that I am living my life as a result of the circumstances

that I have been put in, and not a result of the choices I have made.

I need to turn my way of thinking around!

I have created my life into a timeline of horrific events. When I think back through my past I realize I have sectioned off parts of my life by the bad things that have happened. I commonly get hung up on thinking

whether something has happened before or after my dad died, or that bad thing that happened in high school, or that time I lost a friend, or the miscarriages I have gone through, or the separation/divorce I am now facing and so on. Why do I struggle focusing on the good? Why do I struggle making my life about the choices I am

making and not about what is happening or not happening to me?

How do we move on after bad things happen?

I have always told people that you don't necessarily move on

but you find a new way of living, but I do not even follow my own advice.

I just continue waiting for someone else to change life for me.

It is time to be a big girl and grow up now!

No more focusing on the bad!

No more letting life happen to me!

I am going to let my life be a result of my choices not circumstances!

There are three questions I have begin to focus on

in order to move on and focus on happiness & joy: 

1) What are the turning points in my life and how have I dealt with them?

2) What is holding you back?

3) What decisions can I make to increase my happiness?

I am not exactly going to wait to make a resolution to New Years, I am already starting

to move on and create my own happiness.

I am going to live life, achieve dreams, and be happy!